“Take care!” we end most conversations meaning, take care of yourself. You won’t be happy if you don’t ‘take care’ of your loved ones too. But you can’t do that if you don’t put them in your ‘to do’ list. That is what this blog is all about.
“Darling, I don’t have time, too much to do!” these are words being said between husband and wife, girlfriend and boyfriend, mother and daughter, and almost every relationship.
High paced life, fast life, up to the minute life. – In fact, up to the second life. Tell me about it! Most of us have become workaholics in one way or another. It’s all about ‘achievement’, ‘efficiency’,’excellence’ and what not. That is as it should be.
The side effects of this are …. Heart breaks, hurt feelings and broken relationships and what not, and with these you get: Depression, anxiety and misunderstandings as a side dish.
To come to the point: How do we keep the flame on? Or more importantly, how do we maintain it? We are lucky, that most of us have very good relationships and are born into them. But if we don’t take care of them, these are bound to go bad. The adage: ‘nip the evil in the bud’ goes very well here. When you get that bad feeling, get it out of your system there and then, instead of waiting for it to become an ulcer, before you try to make amends, when it might be too late.
Yes, the ‘to do list’ is your answer. Put it there with your weekly plan and your office planning diary. Merge it with your ‘meetings’ – the meetings you have planned with your wife, daughter, son, uncle and aunt, and parents.
Just do it. It can be done, just a paradigm shift is all you need. Your loved ones will know that you are important enough for you to put them in your ‘important’ ‘to do’ list. You are bound to save yourself a lot of heart ache later on.
Hey, by the way, do it with that Someone who actually takes care of you! – But more about maintaining that relationship, later on. So far, let’s just improve terms with our loved ones here on this earth first.
By the way, the frequency needed for each relationship is different, according to the value we put on it. It is so interesting, if we say ‘I love you’ to someone, to whom we don’t spare a minute of our days…. Does that say something different than what you are ‘saying’? A person can be ‘understanding’ for a while, but for how long? So, the relationships of today, need even more maintenance, because we do not give them as much time, as was given in earlier times.
I remember my Dad, who normally enjoys company of relatives and friends, would get very angry after a while, and say “I just want our own family together now, no one else!” Just being together was all that mattered to him. This ‘family time’ is vital in all families, when there should be no phone, tv, internet, just a happy time, exchanging view, having eye-contact (no chatting on mobiles!), and full attention to the family member, just as you would do, if it was a guest in your home. Why not the same attention to your own family member? Aren’t they important too?
Thanks for reading …. It means a lot to me. And… take care!