A better entertainment alternative to television …
There was a student named Esha in Roots School, in 2009. I came to know her when I worked as the Regional Coordinator in the Head Office of Roots School System. She was studying in O’levels. I found her very mature and sensible. An only child, she chose to wear a hijab. Once I asked her which television programs she watched. I was surprised to hear that she didn’t watch MTV, as a conscious decision. When asked why, (as all others her age would love to watch it,) she replied,
‘ I don’t like anyone to impose their ideas onto mine. By watching programs which I do not agree with, I’m leaving myself open to influence.’
I knew she would be going a long way.
She did; Next, I heard she was studying in Harvard!
So, here is a lesson that we need to learn at any age, something this young teenager had realized already. We must be selective about the ‘entertainment’ we watch, or the social media we use. It is vital for us to make a conscious intrusion. Otherwise strangers controlling social media are already controlling us.
They are controlling our decisions, our actions, our relationships. Everything! As we know, most of it is through advertising. In fact the advent of advertising is what has led to this lethal materialism and crime rate in every society.
First, we have to be conscious of it; be aware of its impact. Only then can we protect ourselves.
Very few people learn to control it.
So, what is media, and social media? Basically it is interactive, and can be used constructively too. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter,and many other forms of media are all part of it.
How to find ways to succeed with it.
- Is it a source of peace or frustration?
- How can I benefits from it?
- Are my relationships with my family suffering due to it? If so, what can I do to make sure it doesn’t happen again?
- How can I restrict its usage? (There are apps on phones to help you restrict its use.)
Honest answers to these questions will help you.
Positive impact of social media:
Love it or hate it, social media is here to stay for a while at least. So, my theory is, ‘if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em!’
As you know, everyone finally joined Facebook, after saying all sorts of horrid things about it. Now, the kids have left it and gone to Instagram. – Now, we have started going there too!
Anyhow, I believe in middle ground and staying in tune with technology. To do whatever it takes to have a wonderful life. To stay blessed, and help others stay blessed too. If social media can help, why not?
Personal experience of yesterday:
It is through social media, that I found Muffin, our Persian cat, yesterday.
Last night, around 9.00 pm, I realized he was lost. Immediately, I informed Waliya, my daughter. Soon, a fan of hers had shared a screen print of an announcement on an animal rescue page. She felt it might be ours.
I had been frantically searching for him on our streets surrounding our home. ( Since he is deaf, there is no point in calling him.) I fell asleep. I woke up after 12.00 am, to realize that he was found! So, literally within three hours he was found. The driver of Mrs. Haroon, wife of the dentist Haroon ur Rashid, nearby, brought him home to her. She already has four cats. She kept him, and shared his picture with her daughter. Then the daughter, put up its picture on the page of animal rescuers in Rawalpindi. A fan of my daughter, saw it there, and sent its’ screen picture to my daughter in Karachi. Then she informed me. I then contacted the rescuer Alina Omair. She gave me Mrs. Haroon’s
number . That’s how the very next morning, I got my cat back. God bless them!
It is through social media that I found out about CSS School, and the old people’s home in Islamabad, where I’ve been able to help along with Sana from Australia, and now Nathalene in Islamabad. So, it is an excellent tool to improve lives of those around us.
In the end, it is up to us how we choose to use the latest technology.
It is YouTube which is the current favorite. Here, one can enjoy seeing episodes of plays in a row. I love listening to music too while working. This one is my current favorite:
Success stories of saving lives:
I know of a kidnapped girl who was found through social media, and recently, a person has also been convinced not to commit suicide, too.
So, it has saved lives.
The situation of Palestine has finally come in front of the entire world, as was the case of Myanmar, Myanmar: Are crimes against humanity taking place? *Warning: Distressing images * – BBC Newsnight.
Where genocide of Muslims had crossed all limits.
I am very hopeful, that Kashmir can finally be saved – through social media. The written word is nothing compared to the real life videos that have taken the world by storm. India can no longer obstruct and block the media, from the world.
Policemen have been caught and so have the crooks.
Yes, Social Media is powerful and can save lives.
Negative impact of Social Media:
With so much dopamine and serotonin going round due to social media, how can it cause depression?
It definitely does! This is why its use has to be consciously kept restricted and controlled, or we are bound to suffer.
Watching motivational videos:
Ever since my husband passed away, I have my breakfast alone. I am accompanied with my daily ‘to do’ list, and DW channel on television. That’s how I’ve spent most of six years.
Since last year, I’ve started watching motivational videos with breakfast. So, by now, I’m going to share quite a few of my favorite videos. You just have to write the name and you’ll get there. I’m sure you know far more.
Entertainment is a serious business.
It is best to allow a time and space for it. Then get on with our lives.
My daughter Nataliya has tried having ‘no screen day’. It is a good effort in the right direction. It is the best way to detox ourselves from it. I would suggest we have ‘no-screen-hours’ in the day, which is shared by the family too. This must be consciously followed, specially at meal times and family times and specially, while entertaining guests.
Keep these sanity points while using social media:
Just for your peace of mind:
- Have a Life! – Besides the one you share on media.
- Do not stalk people: or follow people unnecessarily. Do not be envious of them. (Be clear that what they are sharing can also be untrue! Also, even if it is true, it is just a few minutes of their 24 hours. The rest maybe hell 😉 …. )
- Do not get impressed by the food: they are eating now, (they didn’t share that sookha toast with malai this morning!)
- Do not believe all that you see: Yes, the filters and make-up are doing a damn good job too! (That’s why they look more beautiful.) Appreciate all the beauty your Allah has blessed you with.
- People say ‘cheese’ to camera even when they don’t feel like it: Remember, even when they show news bulletins of flood-hit people, they cannot help but smile at the camera. (We know they have just lost their homes…) It’s so funny.
- Don’t worry, they are as miserable as you, too: – So get happy for that! ( I mean, my gas bill last month had me very upset. I perked up when I found out that I wasn’t alone. Everyone had got a tough gas bill. This is why, I do like to share some real sad things and goof-ups in my life with you all, to show you I’m just another human being
- Restrict your time spent: You can do this by committing yourself to situations where you interact with real people. Especially your own family. Read books, and blogs which are positive and helpful. Do physical exercise, and have healthy food.(Upcoming blog post! 😉 )
Having said all that, let us get back to social media….
My favorite playlist of music and other videos:
The other day, someone asked me for my ‘playlist’. Well, here is a glimpse into my musical playlist, and some of my favorite videos:
Classic Plays by Haseena Moeen:
- Dhoop kinaray.
Sameena Peerzada interviews:
- Mohsin and many others.
Self help and motivational videos:
- Bano Qudsia
- Ashfaque Ahmed.
- Qasim Ali Shah: All his videos are amazing, specially the one’s on teaching, and relationships.
- BK Shivani: Relationships 1,2,3,4,
- Robin Sharma: Morning routine, 5 mentalities mastery, and the rest!
- Stephen R Covey: 7 habits of Highly Effective People.
- Opera Winfrey: 10
- Dr. Wyne Dyer:
- Iyanla Vanzant.
- Mehmut Orhan: Game of Thrones, mix, Boral Kibil& Mehmut Orhan – uprising (Original Mix)
- Mix- Boral Kibil & Mahmut Orhan, Mix – BoralKibil & Mahmut Orhan, HakanAkkus – I Can’t Be (Original Mix.) –( all oftheir work!)
- Mehdi Hasan: Shola tha jal bujha hoon, sadaeinmujhay na do (Ahmed Faraz), koo ba koo Pail gai baat shanasai ki (PerveenShakir.)
- Jagjit Singh – yeh tum jo itna muskura rahay ho,teray khushboo mein basay khat, koi yehkaisay bataye ke wo tanha kiyon hai. His renderings of Mirza Ghalib’s ghazals.
- Chitra – yeh na thi hamari qismet,
- Geaoge Michael : Careless Whisper, Jesus to a Child,
- Lionel Richie: Hello,
- Berlin – Take My Breathe away theme from TopGun.
- Toni Braxton – Unbreak my heart,
- Sade – smooth operator.
- Arabic Spanish music:
Humor: (Remember, you have to laugh at least 23 times a day.)
I could go on and on. I think music is a very personal thing. We have to have a good collection, and keep it nearby for solace and peace.
Love you for coming all the way, to this point in my blog.
Stay blessed, my dear Reader 🙂
Thank you so much for this amazing blog post.
Thank you Anum for your comment. 🙂 Stay blessed.
Another great piece thank you Shireen!
Dear Aliya, thank you for your appreciative comment. Stay blessed.